"Ain't Really Love"

Ozzie Davis and Ruby Dee, the perfect example of long lasting amazing black love. It seems that relationships like that just don't exist anymore. "Till death do us part" is something they vowed under the sight of GOD and they stayed committed to that vow. Growing up I watched a lot of fairy tales and truly believed there would always be a happy ending to every story. Cinderella was always my favorite of all fairy tales, I just knew that no matter what or who I became that Prince Charming was going to find me and rescue me.

But as I got older I realized that life was no fairy tale. I just knew I had been hoodwinked, lied to, bamboozled. I was looking through tunnel vision down a one way street. I begin to believe that my idealistic theory of there always being a happy ending to every story was no longer the realistic outlook I should have on life. I had to grow up and become a realist, and accept people and situations for what they showed themselves to be. It is human nature and just a fact of life that you are going to have your heartbroken by someone that shouldn't have had it to begin with. But does that mean love doesn't exist? I've heard people say that TRUE love is not supposed to hurt. I have learned to disagree with that statement, because you have to go through the bad in order to appreciate the good. So sometimes love, whether it is true or still growing has to hurt even in its purest of forms. But please don't be fooled, all love is not real nor is it all true. Just like the wolf in the heard of sheep it has to dress up to be accepted.

Any love that makes you sad more than it makes you happy ain't really love, any love that makes you cry more than it makes you laugh ain't really love. However, on the contrary love is selfish. Love doesn't know love. Love can not truly exist without misery, betrayal, and deceit. That's because along with the good has to come the bad. You must first know misery and be deceived before you can know that the love you feel for someone else is the truth. Someone who truly loves you will never betray you in such a way that you can not forgive. Trust is the foundation to any relationship, trust trumps the love card. Without the presence of trust no relationship can survive. In order for the house to stand it must be built on a strong foundation.

As I've already stated I once believed in fairy tales and happy endings. But it took an upfront and honest friend saying,"Just because you're in love doesn't mean you're his Cinderella or that he is your Prince Charming." before it hit me. I was already living my fairytale. Just because there was no fairy god-mother, or singing mice, or a pair of glass slippers didn't mean there would be no happily ever after. No I'm not Cinderella and he is not Prince Charming but he is and always will be my happily ever after.

~B~